Always see “real women” posts so here’s one for the dudes.
this says so much. I wish there were more posts like this. please.
body positivity and realistic body standards are important for guys too!
Men are constantly reassured that it’s okay to oogle women and harrass them about their looks. Women rarely see sexualized images of men that are made for women.
Guys get eye candy everywhere they go. Their sexual gaze is constantly catered to. Women, at least hetero women, are rarely given the opportunity to have their sexual interest entertained. We’re told that we should be okay with having nothing to look at. That our fantasies don’t matter. That we shouldn’t ever even remotely expect to be able to eyeball a svelte man in public, only behind closed doors and heaven forbid that the man look vulnerable. So we finally get to see images that turn us on and people are like, “Hey, you can’t put that in magazines! that might hurt some little boy’s feelings!”
Men are given alternative physical images to aspire to. Women are not.
While yes, guys should be treated to body positivity too… they already are. Just watch TV or any comedy and count the number of pudgy, out of shape, male leads vs pudgy, out of shape female leads. Or the number of hairy, overweight, older men making block buster movies vs the number of hairy, overweight, older women. Now count how many times that male character has some incredibly smart, sexy wife who does everything for him. And then how many times she’s the butt of the joke when he gets hot for some woman who’s younger and thinner than she is.
Fuck, just look at the responses to women not shaving their legs vs the responses to guys not shaving off their stubble.
Name six movies about a woman above the age of forty who’s love interest is a man that’s younger than she is where the plot doesn’t revolve around her being the butt of a cougar or mom joke. Now name me six where a man over the age of forty’s love interest is a woman who’s significantly younger than he is. Bonus points for action movies where anyone in the movie makes a mention of the age difference.
How many times are male politician or CEO’s body or style of dress put into question? How many times are female’s? Or has everyone forgotten how we flip out when the president’s wife gets a new hair cut? Or how Hillary Clinton had to have a FUCKING MAKE OVER before the news agencies took her seriously? How many times was her daughter raked over the coals for looking like an average teenager?
What’s more, I’ve never heard any of my female friends or my mother and her female friends saying, “Why can’t my 50 year old husband get a six pack like that?” What I USUALLY here is “I wish my husband would get a nice hair cut.” or “I wish he’d wear some nicer clothes that actually fit him.”
But what i hear overhear men saying all time is, “No fat chicks!” or “I wish my wife had bigger boobs.”
I know a woman who’s husband threatened to leave her if she didn’t get a face lift and a boob job- she was so upset that she did it. She felt disgusting every day because she wasn’t a size six and he expected her to be a size six after bearing him four kids. My own uncle said if his wife got overweight that he’d drag her behind a car until she lost weight. These aren’t even “bad guys”! They seem like perfectly nice men when you meet them! But they’re taught from the moment they’re kids that all women need to be a certain body type to be worthy of any attention.
Men are told through our culture’s stories and media that a woman will still love them unconditionally and throw themselves at them if they’re fat, old, balding, or an asshole, while women are told that if they’re pushy, fat, old or wearing out of style clothes that they aren’t even worth mentioning.
I was just going to bold the good parts , so I bolded the whole thing lol.A man can be a derange, fat, narcissistic, corrupt, immoral, balding, fugly criminal and still be famous, successful, idolized and “get the girl” and a “trophy wife”. Women and girls have to walk on eggshells their whole lives and torture their bodies for “perfection”, be silent, submissive, sexy, smile, giggle, breed heirs, be virtuous, über-feminine, the “perfect wife and mother”, dumb themselves down, never get angry and just be a masochistic doll. And throw some racialized misogyny, colorism and orientalist fetishes in there for “added flavor”.
OH MY GOD THE COMMENTARY…………
This right here is why people hate feminazis! Let me start by saying I absolutely agree with everything said here, but this post, the ORIGINAL message of this post, is that men can feel insecure and have body issues, too. Women are not the only ones. It is ok for men to feel like they’re not “good enough” because of the media. That’s not to say women have any more or less insecurities than men. Feminism is supposed to be about BALANCE AND EQUALITY. Men and women can BOTH feel insecure and objectified by the media! Why is it some people feel the need to make it a competition! Yes, historically and even in today’s world, women ARE more objectified by the media. No one is arguing that point! The point this post is trying to make is that YES MEN ARE OBJECTIFIED, TOO! Women don’t own the rights to feeling insecure about their bodies. By posting a long rant about how women are more treated like objects and over-sexualized on a post telling boys/men that it’s ok to not look like models is like saying “hey my pain is worse than yours, so you’re not entitled to feel that pain.” This shouldn’t be women verses the over-sexualization of media or men verses the objectification of the media, it should be PEOPLE against the way the media portrays what men AND women “should” look like. I can’t say this enough, THIS ISN’T A COMPETITION!
People who havent seen doctor who may find this funny
but to the people who have seen it
this iS THE SCARIEST SHIT EVER
People who haven’t seen doctor who may find this funny
but to the people who have seen it
this iS THE SCARIEST SHIT EVER
Staff was taking six-month-old tiger cub Akaasha on her daily walk around the Six Flags Discovery Kingdom when she saw Mavrick, a 14-month-old Atlantic bottlenose dolphin. The pair examined each other from all angles possible - then the dolphin blew an approving bout of bubbles towards the tiger. [Article]
oh my god dolphins express approval by blowing bubbles
now you know how people with glasses see.
WOAH is this how it really is?
YES THIS IS VERY ACCURATE
when someone takes off your glasses and asks HOW MANY FINGERS AM I HOLDING UP HAHA. yeah. now you understand. you aren’t blind without glasses, you’re just a little out of focus.
laughing cause this is normal for me
It must be why he worries about them more than the rest of the Fellowship, in my opinion.
Pft! I’m so not crying myself while making this gifset ;w; Insomnia antics I tell you
WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU
tHIS IS NOT OKAY